Have you heard of 666?

• 6 pack abs

• 6 figure-income

• 6 foot height

It’s the ideal guy that women look for.

And if you happen to spend any time on Twitter, you’ll see that it pisses men off.

And I don’t blame them. It’s a short-sighted metric that looks sexy in the short-term but fails in the long term.

So now, you have a pissing match.

Men come back and say — Oh yeah, well here are my criteria for an ideal woman:

• blonde

• shorter than me

• boobs this size

• butt this size

• virgin

• …and other ideal fantasies

The stakes are now so high that nobody wins.

It’s not the list that’s the problem.

A man must clearly define what a quality woman means to him so he can identify her when he sees her.

But listing traits isn’t going to help you.

Here’s why.

1. Beautiful but ugly trap

Okay — let’s say you happen to find a woman that has the exact height, hair color, boob size, and butt size you wanted.

But…

She’s a total downer and doesn’t match your values.

How do you think that’ll work long-term?

It won’t.

2. Can’t scale a wall that’s too high

Let’s say your list has 10 traits you want in a woman.

She fits 7 of those traits.

But you connect deeply with her and enjoy spending time with her.

What do you do?

You’ll reject her because your mind (traits) battles your heart (values).

The more your list grows with traits, the more you risk never finding the right woman.

It’s not that she’s not there. It’s that you’ll be blind to seeing her.

So if traits aren’t it. What is?

The power of values

Forget traits. Values are what you want.

Trait: No social media presence
Value: Loyal

Trait: Job title
Value: Determined

Trait: under 150lbs
Value: Athletic

Choose values that align with the traits you’re looking for.

If you value athleticism for physical attractiveness and health, do you really care what sport she plays?

Some men want a woman with zero social media presence.

But is that a value or a trait?

It’s a trait.

The underlying fear is that social media presence makes her susceptible to other men.

But what if she’s an online teacher? An online entreprenuer?

But she’s fiercely loyal.

Would social media presence still matter to you?

Now it makes no sense to list.

When it comes to enjoying a fulfilling relationship, traits take a backseat to the power of shared values.

Now you might be thinking — that’s all great and good, Nikita. But are you telling me to settle for less?

Hell no.

I’m telling you to expect more from your list.

Traits are like a quick sugary snack.

Values are a satisfying lunch that creates long-term fulfilling relationships.

You don’t need to trade values for attractiveness.

You can find a woman that aligns with your values AND physically turn you on.

They exist and I insist you aim to find her.

I guarantee you’ll have a better time dating and identifying your ideal woman if you do it through specific values rather than specific traits.